The divorce process can sometimes, become a stressful task when deciding on property division. Contention tends to occur when establishing child custody. When deciding on the best interest of the children, it can be emotionally taxing, especially when the parents’ views do not coincide.
Researchers have concluded “psychosocial stress is a major contributing factor to the development of numerous health conditions” (Norman). Under Sec. 153. 002. of The Texas Family Code, “The best interest of the child shall always be the primary consideration of the court in determining the issues of conservatorship and possession of and access to the child.” Research has revealed that divorce itself is not necessarily the source of a child’s emotional distress, but the way the divorce is handled. Creating an environment for the children to be involved in a healthy life transition is important.
Children are emotional sponges that absorb the stress their parents are expressing. Scientific literature and data from recent studies continue to prove, incorrectly handled divorces can cause a negative impact on a child’s health (Spanish Foundation for Science and Technology). If quarreling parents stay together just to keep their family together, irreconcilable differences can continue to affect the family over time and thus, can result in a negative impact on the children as well. Rather than making the children feel the need to choose sides or go against a parent, allow them to feel as though they are part of the process.
By being the example, displaying and informing healthy coping mechanisms during a transitional period in life, children are better for it. Providing the children with the right emotional support to express their feelings in a healthy manner is important. The process of divorce mediation may make it easier for the parents to find common ground and achieve a plan that works for both parties and is ultimately in the best interests of their children. This will increase all parties’ chances of maintaining a healthy well-being years after the divorce has been finalized.
Jenkins, J.F. O’Connor’s Texas Family Code Plus 2021-2022ed. (2022).
Norman, Abby. May 2017. Divorce Isn’t What Harms Kids Health, Study Finds, But How Parents Handle it. romper.com
Spanish Foundation for Science and Technology. May 2017. Parents’ divorce increases risk of health disorders in children. medicalxpress.com