Texas parents like you put their children before everything else. While it can be easy to regularly prioritize your children’s best interests in most situations, it can be especially difficult to do so during a divorce.
Although there is no foolproof way to make divorce easier on your children, some options are gentler than others. Collaborative divorce is often a safer option for protecting children’s best interests than litigated divorce.
How kids tend to react to divorce
KidsHealth focuses on the ways in which divorce may impact a child’s well-being. It is a disruption to the very foundation of a child’s life, creating turbulence and a lack of stability.
Many issues children of divorce face stem from this instability in their lives. For example, they may act out against peers or figures of authority. They tend to get into trouble at school by lashing out at other kids or talking back to teachers.
Working together to eliminate instability
By taking the right steps during divorce, you can remove some of this sense of instability and help your children cope. This is where collaborative divorce shines.
Divorce is divorce no matter how you present it. Your children’s worlds will be forever changed. But if you and your co-parent work together instead of against each other, it can mitigate the stress for your children by allowing them to see that you are still a dependable, reliable presence in their lives.
When you work together, you and your ex-spouse can also better present a more unified front for your family. You can decide exactly what information to discuss with your children and what to leave unsaid. You can also openly talk about post-divorce changes with your kids, such as which parent will move out and what visitation plans may look like.
Removing the element of surprise and uncertainty often helps children feel more stable and less afraid.