Divorces can be messy. In the middle of a split, you may find it difficult to say anything nice about your former spouse. Civilities are easier to throw out the window during a divorce. At first, it may seem harmless. The two of you are upset and so there is nothing wrong with expressing that. Most do not realize that when you speak badly about your former partner during a divorce, it can hurt your case. 

According to Forbes, you can damage your family dynamic, your reputation and you may even lose the chance to have a divorce end in your favor. 

You could lose your assets 

It is difficult not to pick a fight with your spouse. You have to be able to take the high road, however. If you harass your partner or damage his or her reputation in any way, then the person could use that to his or her advantage. Your partner can claim that you affected his or her income and reputation. This means that he or she may have a more favorable outcome than you will. 

You could lose custody 

If there are children involved in your divorce, then you need to know when to stay calm and how to remain civil with your partner. When couples do not put their anger aside for their children, it does not look like they have their kids’ best interests at heart. Instead, the arguing or bad talking may appear as though you are trying to alienate them from their other parent. If the court thinks that you are not clear-headed, you could lose your custody battle.